One-sidedness is a system — not only a villain
When one partner carries logistics, emotional labor, or repair initiation, the relationship can look ‘lazy vs hardworking’ — but dynamics are often co-created: pursuit escalates distance, distance triggers pursuit.
Sustainable intimacy requires reciprocity you can feel. Chronic imbalance becomes resentment, numbness, or a quiet exit — even when love remains.
This guide centers effort asymmetry and roles in the system. For coldness and drift writ large, use Emotional Distance; for whether the bond can still be repaired, use Recovery; for accumulated hurt and scorekeeping, use Resentment.
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