Establish a truthful starting point by identifying safety signals, recurring patterns, integrity gaps, and areas of misalignment.
The Relationship Baseline Exam establishes a truthful starting point by identifying safety signals, recurring patterns, integrity gaps, and areas of misalignment — without diagnosing, advising, or telling users what to do.
I feel safe expressing concerns without fear of punishment, withdrawal, or retaliation.
When I share difficult feelings, my partner responds with care rather than defensiveness.
I can disagree with my partner without feeling anxious or on edge afterward.
I do not feel the need to walk on eggshells to keep the peace.
My thoughts and perspectives are taken seriously by my partner.
Even during conflict, my partner avoids contempt, mockery, or dismissal.
I feel valued as an equal rather than managed, minimized, or talked down to.
My partner speaks about me with respect to others.
My partner notices when I am emotionally distressed or disconnected.
When I reach out for connection, my partner usually responds.
My emotional needs are met with curiosity rather than annoyance.
I feel emotionally seen in this relationship.
Effort in this relationship feels reciprocal over time.
Both of us attempt repair after conflict.
I am not the only one carrying the emotional weight of the relationship.
My partner demonstrates commitment through consistent actions.
My partner acts in ways that protect trust, even when it is inconvenient.
Promises made to me are generally kept.
My partner considers how their actions affect my well-being.
I feel cared for in ways that go beyond words.
